So this is incredibly real and accurate and it's kind of freaking me out. I first want to say thank you for writing this because it feels very isolating when you are deeply in this phase. I don't think I felt like anyone around me understood what I was going through and because of that it seemed like I was doing something wrong. Even after moving through it a little, it's so good to hear that other people also experience this and I am actually doing just fine.
The part where you arrive but there is no confetti is incredibly on the nose. I am slowly arriving and it's hard not to expect a parade but I try to celebrate often. I'd also say I am scared to close the identity gap because I think it requries me to face fears and gain confidence which seems impossible currently.
Anyway, reading this made me feel validated and was a sigh of relief. Thanks again <3
Yep, the isolation became my norm and was even hard to get out of at first.
Also, whatever you feel the resistance towards is likely what’s in that gap. Gotta work your way up to it but I explained how to do that in my last episode.
As a fellow hater of the in-between phases of life, this hit very close to home. Currently in the in-between tho we have movement thankfully.
Loved what you said about how the old self suddenly says "bye bye". It's like finding out your game updated by seeing all the glitches in the program because you have outdated mods. Absolute brutality. Such a good reminder that it's part of the process and nothing is really wrong. Ty!
This was an incredible read! I am definitely in the dark messy middle. I related so much to that idea of being way too far away from where you started so your only option is to follow the light. That's exactly how I've been feeling. Needing to work on my identity gaps as opposed to just working harder is a game changer though. It's a different way of thinking about this phase and the way I approach getting to this other side. I'm gonna check out your YouTube video next, but this article was great. Thank you!
This is one of the best descriptions I’ve ever read of that messy middle phase between who you’ve been and who you’re becoming.🌀
I’m in one of those phases myself and you’re so right that the biggest purpose of these in-betweens is to become the version of you who can hold that goal and vision and light at the end, not about the actual ‘thing’. Thank you for sharing.🩵
So this is incredibly real and accurate and it's kind of freaking me out. I first want to say thank you for writing this because it feels very isolating when you are deeply in this phase. I don't think I felt like anyone around me understood what I was going through and because of that it seemed like I was doing something wrong. Even after moving through it a little, it's so good to hear that other people also experience this and I am actually doing just fine.
The part where you arrive but there is no confetti is incredibly on the nose. I am slowly arriving and it's hard not to expect a parade but I try to celebrate often. I'd also say I am scared to close the identity gap because I think it requries me to face fears and gain confidence which seems impossible currently.
Anyway, reading this made me feel validated and was a sigh of relief. Thanks again <3
Yep, the isolation became my norm and was even hard to get out of at first.
Also, whatever you feel the resistance towards is likely what’s in that gap. Gotta work your way up to it but I explained how to do that in my last episode.
Thank you for reading 🤍
As a fellow hater of the in-between phases of life, this hit very close to home. Currently in the in-between tho we have movement thankfully.
Loved what you said about how the old self suddenly says "bye bye". It's like finding out your game updated by seeing all the glitches in the program because you have outdated mods. Absolute brutality. Such a good reminder that it's part of the process and nothing is really wrong. Ty!
Exactly! Thank you for reading 🫶🏾
This was an incredible read! I am definitely in the dark messy middle. I related so much to that idea of being way too far away from where you started so your only option is to follow the light. That's exactly how I've been feeling. Needing to work on my identity gaps as opposed to just working harder is a game changer though. It's a different way of thinking about this phase and the way I approach getting to this other side. I'm gonna check out your YouTube video next, but this article was great. Thank you!
I love how you say you shouldn’t be strategising your way towards “the light new life” but becoming it. BOOM 💥
Everything in this article whewwww... I needed this
This is one of the best descriptions I’ve ever read of that messy middle phase between who you’ve been and who you’re becoming.🌀
I’m in one of those phases myself and you’re so right that the biggest purpose of these in-betweens is to become the version of you who can hold that goal and vision and light at the end, not about the actual ‘thing’. Thank you for sharing.🩵
Aww thank you! & thanks for reading! 🤍